Thread:GhostCooki/@comment-5645428-20180501183003

Hello GhostCooki.

I’ve been reading your messages. While participating on this wiki, in some ways, I have a responsibility to look after the members here, yourself included. It seems to me that you are at difficult phase in your life. So happens that you express some of those experiences here, mostly negative, much to my disappoint and likely others. What does that mean? I’m not mad at you, but kindly, it’s time that you hear what needs to be heard.

You are self-victimising, and an attention seeker. You demonstrate this through your negativity, and subtle pleas for acknowledgement. This, I know, stems from a lack of genuine acknowledgement in the real world. Do I know you, or your story? I haven’t the slightest idea, but who you are on this wiki? You are someone who needs support, and I feel compelled to offer you some words I believe can help you see things clearer.

I’ll tell you something you don’t need, and it might seem strange, stupid and illogical. This acknowledgement you long for? You don’t need it. Validation from others’ attention? You don’t need it. What others think about you? Doesn’t matter. See, the thing here is that a lot of people you meet in life, the only thing that keeps them going is acknowledgement from others. They need others to tell them that what they’re saying is right, that they have cool interests, that they look pretty, that they’re doing a good job… but when others don’t, they feel bad about themselves. They feel bad about themselves because others didn’t meet their expectations in saying something they’d like to hear to feel validated. When you take this approach, you sacrifice your ability to make yourself feel good, because you expect others to do it for you. The truth is, no one thinks that you’re special, at least, not as much as they would think that for themselves. As it goes, most people put themselves first. I believe there is a common idea that such people are deemed ‘selfish’. On the contrary, I believe that each and every person should indeed put themselves first, because no one is going to that for you. In fact, you have a responsibility to yourself to put yourself first. Now, I’m not saying to be a dickhead to others, not at all. I’m saying that each and every person who walks this Earth is responsible for themselves and their own happiness. Because the truth is this, no one can make you happy except for yourself. The only person you can ever rely on to truly have your interests at heart is yourself. You have the control to allow people to make you feel depressed, because they failed to meet your expectations. You also have the control to allow people to not bother you (this is harder, and takes time to learn), because you don’t care what they think because if it doesn’t help make you feel happy, it is not worth your time, effort or acknowledgement. No, you control your own happiness. No one can truly stop you from being happy if you want to be. Indeed, the world isn’t perfect and struggles are to be expected. You will still have good days and bad days, but you can change your outlook. Coming to realise that you control your expectations and how you react to the outcomes of those expectations. Coming to realise that your value is as much as you value yourself, and not how much others acknowledge you. Coming to realise that owning your world means that you’ll always be home. It is your responsibility to yourself to put yourself and your happiness first, and to let nothing stop you from doing anything different.

Have a great day. 